Hammer or Humor? Positive Discipline for Parents at the ACP

boy with hammerHere's an article written about the upcoming Positive Discipline class in Paris for the Spire magazine.  Many thanks to our sponsor, the American Church in Paris, for their enthusiastic support and for their great humeur (French for humor, spirit, attitude...). 

Keep on reading for a little laugh at myself, which led me to the springboard of new learning and family flourishing.

Sign up for the class:  First session on October 6 from 9:00-11:00 is free

or read the flyer for the full details.

The Problem-Solving Dilemma

What is this child doing?  Abraham Maslow said, “If all you have is a hammer, everything looks like a nail.”  This child is solving a problem, and since he has a hammer....  Maybe he is modeling his mother’s behavior.  Yikes, I’m the mom!

For many years these pictures described my parenting:  my hammer was my voice, sometimes tapping softly with a gentle reprimand and other times whamming out a shout.

Was it effective?  Yes and no.  Too gentle a tap produced no change.  I felt ignored and disrespected.  Too tough a wham took away joy and trust in our relationship.  Problems were resolved in the short term...yet they often re-occurred.  The hammer rarely produced a change of heart.  Besides, what values was I passing along?  Was my behavior pointing to Jesus?  How was I preparing my children to thrive (vs. survive) in life?

Thus began my search for alternative tools and I discovered a wealth of options, including humor.

Positive Discipline for Parents

Discovering and applying creative parenting tools is what happens during the Positive Discipline for Parents workshops.  It’s a new venture for the ACP. We are launching a seven week parenting class to learn and practice these tools for you.  Try the first session on October 6 for free.  Dates & Times:  Mondays, Oct. 6, 13, Nov 3, 10, 17, 24, and Dec 1 – 9:00-11:00 am

This workshop helps parents focus on first things first:  our values and hopes for our kids.  Then we identify tools to apply in everyday life which enable us parents to prepare our children for vibrant professional, personal, and spiritual lives.

The Positive Discipline approach is open to people of all faiths.  Participants are invited to stay after each class to informally explore sharing faith in Jesus and strengthening Christian values at home.

Kind AND Firm

In the above photos, our youngest son is helping me make apricot jam.  The apricot’s almond adds flavor to the confiture.  To release the tasty nut from its shell requires a balance of gentle and firm taps.   Too slight and the treasures stay hidden.  Too hard, and they become smuuuuush!

Through activities and role-plays Moms and Dads practice balancing being Kind AND Firm.  Join us!   To sign up, click the link Positive Discipline for Parents at the ACP or write denise@home-is-fun.com .

P.S. Ten years later we still make apricot jam together.

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