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Why would parents need help? If they are “good” moms and dads, aren’t they supposed to know?!

Dear Friend,

Great questions:  “Why should parents need help?  Aren’t we (moms and dads) supposed to know….and if we get help does that mean we messed up along the way?”

Let’s take a step back.

Have you ever stood VERY CLOSE to a tree, like with your nose touching the bark, and admired the forest?  Probably not.

When we have our nose to the grindstone (le nez dans le guidon) it is like a camera with a high zoooom lens.  We see details of the specifics in front of us and lose touch of the big picture. 

And have you noticed how pain acts in a similar fashion?  Time is short.  We want relief NOW.  No waiting.  I love how the 17th century gambler, Chevalier de Méré, puts it, “Il n’est pas bon d’être malheureux mais il est bon de l’avoir été.” (“It is not good to be sad but it is good to have been.”)

The Home Is Fun web-workshops enable parents to take a step back. Even to identify the benefit we gain (are currently gaining) from overcoming challenges.  Many parenting experts encourage (instruct) moms and dads to take time off, but how?  When?  An event with an outside person facilitates the process.  We revisit sensitive issues from a fun and fresh perspective.  The focus is on solutions, not on blame…therefore not on the pain that family members suffer.  The web-workshops help turn subjects of tension into opportunities of learning.

Of course parents can do this on their own too.  And yet, realizing the need to step back AND committing to doing so requires a change of posture.  That’s tough.  An outside catalyst, such as a person, an event, an activity, help change happen more smoothly.

As you know, I believe parents are leaders.  It is a common professional practice to organize leadership seminars and team building events.  Consider the Home Is Fun web-workshops to be just that:  your family team brainstorming bonanza.

Another similar reference could be a hackathon.  Ideally, companies encourage creativity.  A one-time event…with a specified focus…which unites people in an out-of-the-ordinary context..and which offers a prize (!) boosts inventiveness to a higher level.

The goal of the Home Is Fun workshops is to strengthen the relationship within YOUR super family.  We present a fresh perspective SO THAT YOUR family can benefit by exploring it together.   We pose questions you might not have thought to ask.  That’s normal; you have been managing the busy daily routine.  The answers to the questions you explored remain for you.  The process of mutual exploration is for you.  The thrill of discovery of each other is for you.  The memory of creating solutions together is for you.  The ease of life that comes from your personalized solutions is for YOU.

Hope this answers your questions.  We love hearing them so keep on asking.

Turn Work into Fun

Running = WORK (in my book).  It’s effort, sweat, and sore muscles.

And yet, I wanted to run yesterday as The Color Runners pranced by me during the Paris race.  It’s a 5K race and every kilometer is marked by a shower of color.  They call it “The Happiest 5K on the planet.”

What if we could infuse our home management with such joy?  Here’s my go at it:

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Boosting Family Love: It Worked for Us!

We had a LOVERLY (!) time at the Boost Love Family Workshop last week-end. I just loooove this picture of BEAMING kids when they are so confident of being loved and of having their love received.

Here’s our vision.  Great leaders make great parents.  At work, we frame a vision, communicate it, and organize to make it happen.  Isn’t that what we do at home too?

We got inspired by business growth (new customers, new products & services, greater value of each) to boost love through building up our relationships, the frequency of our interactions, and the depth of our communication.

I just love your workshops! You are so engaging and motivating and inspiring! (Thank you.  I do thrive on affirmation.  Smile.  Well, GRIN!)  I guess what helps the most is the practical way you put things into perspective for us.  Things we never necessarily think about in a structured way - but should!!!...I'm looking forward to the next one!!!”

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Boost Love - Parent & Child Workshop in Paris

For every “NO!” how often do you encourage?

So much of our family conversation seems tainted by critique or correction.  Maybe it's because so much of our discussion centers around giving instructions. 

Do these sound familiar?

Dad: "How is homework coming along?  Did you do it WELL?"

or

Mom: "For how long did you brush your teeth?"

Kid:  "Why do you ask me again and again?"

Mom:  "Didn't you know a mom is a spy?!  Besides, too often I find your toothbrush dry!"

Great homes share exchanges like these.  They also include more...


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How to Have a Happy Birthday, Christmas, and every Gift Exchange 2

Now that the gift-receiving taboos are out in the open, you can do something about changing attitudes and behaviors.

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How to Have a Happy Birthday, Christmas, and every Gift Exchange 1

Happy celebrations are soooo important, that Home Is Fun made it's 1st video (!!!) about this.  Parents and kids can watch it together!

Aren’t those intense gift exchange days exciting?  Birthdays! Christmas and the holiday season!  Oh, the treasures we (children and, yes, mom and dad too) expect!!!

Aren’t those intense gift exchange days exhausting?!  I agree with the The Berenstain Bears: there can be Too Much Birthday :  ...or Christmas and holiday gift exchanges.

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Pumpkin in Paris...All Saint's Day

Friends moved to Paris for a year and live right next door to Notre Dame cathedral!   That's their humorous Halloween pumpkin glowing from the window.  What a hauntingly beautiful setting:  the flowing Seine river, the historic Parisian islands, and the sore-thumb-looking Tour Montparnasse (the best viewing spot in Paris because you can't see it!)

“We’re here to soak in the culture.” This year, they’re in the memory-making business.

Today, November 1, is All Saints’ Day, a time to remember loved ones who passed away. How can we speak to our kids about death?...without conjuring up images of ghosts and goblins!

Through marvelous memories.

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New Attitude About Love

Making love? Tonight? Again?!

When we had four boys under seven, I fantasized about going on a relationship sabbatical. No calling after me; no touching me.

My days (and nights) were filled with demands from all sides: Crying baby demanding something (to be figured out) NOW. A teaching-opportunity (a.k.a. a fight between the kids) here. Spilled milk there. “How do you write ‘cat’?” “Can you read to me?” “PIPI!!!!!” Urgent diaper change coming through!! The drop which invariably made my cup topple over was when, at the end of the day my husband would cuddle up and whisper, “Honey...(wink)” Heaven sounded like one year of being “off-call.”

But what was my attitude teaching the kids? Me >>> We. ("Me" is much more important than "We")  Oops.

Here are some thoughts that helped me change my attitude.

(Photo story:  we visited this pre-Inca Largo Museum as a family.  The Erotic Room sure provided a memorable experience!)

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Happy New Year!

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It’s The Thought That Counts...Which One?!

Overheard around our kitchen table...

“Hey Kids! Guess what Mom & Dad want for Christmas?”

“What?” “Tell me!” “No, me first!”...

“First, a GREAT attitude during out next family outing...”

“That’s WAY too hard. Can’t I just buy you something?”

“Next, five tastes of a new food without making a fuss...”

Our ten year old stripped the holiday décor off our wishes: “You want us to obey in the areas where we disobey!” 

“That’s stupid!” retorted our status-conscious teen. “Good presents we (meaning the parents) buy.”

Download the Great Attitude "Dollar" now or read on first.

 

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