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Why would parents need help? If they are “good” moms and dads, aren’t they supposed to know?!

Dear Friend,

Great questions:  “Why should parents need help?  Aren’t we (moms and dads) supposed to know….and if we get help does that mean we messed up along the way?”

Let’s take a step back.

Have you ever stood VERY CLOSE to a tree, like with your nose touching the bark, and admired the forest?  Probably not.

When we have our nose to the grindstone (le nez dans le guidon) it is like a camera with a high zoooom lens.  We see details of the specifics in front of us and lose touch of the big picture. 

And have you noticed how pain acts in a similar fashion?  Time is short.  We want relief NOW.  No waiting.  I love how the 17th century gambler, Chevalier de Méré, puts it, “Il n’est pas bon d’être malheureux mais il est bon de l’avoir été.” (“It is not good to be sad but it is good to have been.”)

The Home Is Fun web-workshops enable parents to take a step back. Even to identify the benefit we gain (are currently gaining) from overcoming challenges.  Many parenting experts encourage (instruct) moms and dads to take time off, but how?  When?  An event with an outside person facilitates the process.  We revisit sensitive issues from a fun and fresh perspective.  The focus is on solutions, not on blame…therefore not on the pain that family members suffer.  The web-workshops help turn subjects of tension into opportunities of learning.

Of course parents can do this on their own too.  And yet, realizing the need to step back AND committing to doing so requires a change of posture.  That’s tough.  An outside catalyst, such as a person, an event, an activity, help change happen more smoothly.

As you know, I believe parents are leaders.  It is a common professional practice to organize leadership seminars and team building events.  Consider the Home Is Fun web-workshops to be just that:  your family team brainstorming bonanza.

Another similar reference could be a hackathon.  Ideally, companies encourage creativity.  A one-time event…with a specified focus…which unites people in an out-of-the-ordinary context..and which offers a prize (!) boosts inventiveness to a higher level.

The goal of the Home Is Fun workshops is to strengthen the relationship within YOUR super family.  We present a fresh perspective SO THAT YOUR family can benefit by exploring it together.   We pose questions you might not have thought to ask.  That’s normal; you have been managing the busy daily routine.  The answers to the questions you explored remain for you.  The process of mutual exploration is for you.  The thrill of discovery of each other is for you.  The memory of creating solutions together is for you.  The ease of life that comes from your personalized solutions is for YOU.

Hope this answers your questions.  We love hearing them so keep on asking.

Getting Perspective when Seeing Red

Some days I just see red.  Call it myopic vision.

The boys display excellent teamwork skills...playing Mario Kart.  I only notice the dirty dishes left on the table.

Amazingly, my husband does not stop all activity to listen with ears and eyes while I share some erudite wisdom.  I take it personally.

A colleague does not answer me immediately and I wonder at his priorities. 

Looking out the window on a recent plane ride, I wondered about my current outlook on life.   Do I have an ant’s or an eagle’s perspective?  What am I missing by focusing toooooooo closely on details?

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Bye Bye Auschwitz. Hold onto Values.

Today commemorates the 70 years of liberation of Auschwitz.

This Nazi camp I have not visited. But I did catch a smidgen of the sense of a death camp at Natzwiller-Struthof, a Nazi concentration and extermination camp located in Alsace, France among the rolling hills of endearing wine country, next door to church-studded villages with gingerbread-like houses.

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Top 60 Gifts of 2014...They're All People. How is YOUR Support Network?

It’s been hard to move into 2015, and partly because I had not closed up 2014. Here’s to looking back (kindly) so as to look forward (hopefully and hope-filled-ly).

My greatest profits from 2014 result from investing in relationships:  personal, professional, communal, and spiritual.  Sometimes it"s one individual; other times it's a group.  High returns?  Totally!...even when sometimes there are yeeeeeaaaaaarrrrrs of dedicating loving before the returns flow back in abundance.  Still worth it.

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Make New Year's Resolutions the Kids Help You Achieve

New Year's resolutions can feel like New Year's Additional Pressures.  That's what it sounded like on the French radio this morning.  (Read below).

Join us for the Family Feedback Free Webinar for parents AND kids TOGETHER.  Build your Be-the-best-family-we-can-be Resolutions together and harness the children's support to help stick to them. 

Date:  January 4

Time: 11:00 am EST for about 45 minutes (you choose whether to stay on and ask questions)

Fee:  Free.  Home Is Fun's gift to you.

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Family Feedback-The Gift Money Can't Buy

Join us for a FREE Family Webinar where the kids give parents feedback to help make family the best it can be.

January 4, 2015 from 11:00 am EST.  15 minutes of introduction to coach the entire family, and you are off!  We're staying online to answer your questions and guide you through as needed.

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Talking Virtues and Values with Kids without Preaching


When our eldest child was three years old he popped this question:  “Are you friends with all of the people at work?”  I answered simply for his age and already envisioned deep discussions on friendship, respect, and,yes, even office politics!

Then time zooooomed by and I finally paused long enough to wonder what happened with those conversations.  Would we ever have them?

Chez nous (in our home here in Paris), family conversations happen mostly at mealtime (which is why we try to eat together regularly).  What do we talk about around the table?

(For posts on specific values, click here.)

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Boosting Family Love: It Worked for Us!

We had a LOVERLY (!) time at the Boost Love Family Workshop last week-end. I just loooove this picture of BEAMING kids when they are so confident of being loved and of having their love received.

Here’s our vision.  Great leaders make great parents.  At work, we frame a vision, communicate it, and organize to make it happen.  Isn’t that what we do at home too?

We got inspired by business growth (new customers, new products & services, greater value of each) to boost love through building up our relationships, the frequency of our interactions, and the depth of our communication.

I just love your workshops! You are so engaging and motivating and inspiring! (Thank you.  I do thrive on affirmation.  Smile.  Well, GRIN!)  I guess what helps the most is the practical way you put things into perspective for us.  Things we never necessarily think about in a structured way - but should!!!...I'm looking forward to the next one!!!”

Read on and check out the pictures.

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Boost Love - Parent & Child Workshop in Paris

For every “NO!” how often do you encourage?

So much of our family conversation seems tainted by critique or correction.  Maybe it's because so much of our discussion centers around giving instructions. 

Do these sound familiar?

Dad: "How is homework coming along?  Did you do it WELL?"

or

Mom: "For how long did you brush your teeth?"

Kid:  "Why do you ask me again and again?"

Mom:  "Didn't you know a mom is a spy?!  Besides, too often I find your toothbrush dry!"

Great homes share exchanges like these.  They also include more...


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Parenting Insights Inspired by Herminia Ibarra: Perfection and Love (Success) Mix Like Oil and Vinegar

Spoke with Herminia Ibarra last night.  Rather, she addressed a group of 30 of us Harvard Women in France... and I participated in the Q & A.  Recognized as one of the top 50 brains (charismatic, engaging, humble, humorous, sharp, and visionary) in business, Ibarra currently teaches and researches out of Insead. 

One of the take away's from her talk:  learning in organizations follows the 70-20-10 rule.

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