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Why would parents need help? If they are “good” moms and dads, aren’t they supposed to know?!

Dear Friend,

Great questions:  “Why should parents need help?  Aren’t we (moms and dads) supposed to know….and if we get help does that mean we messed up along the way?”

Let’s take a step back.

Have you ever stood VERY CLOSE to a tree, like with your nose touching the bark, and admired the forest?  Probably not.

When we have our nose to the grindstone (le nez dans le guidon) it is like a camera with a high zoooom lens.  We see details of the specifics in front of us and lose touch of the big picture. 

And have you noticed how pain acts in a similar fashion?  Time is short.  We want relief NOW.  No waiting.  I love how the 17th century gambler, Chevalier de Méré, puts it, “Il n’est pas bon d’être malheureux mais il est bon de l’avoir été.” (“It is not good to be sad but it is good to have been.”)

The Home Is Fun web-workshops enable parents to take a step back. Even to identify the benefit we gain (are currently gaining) from overcoming challenges.  Many parenting experts encourage (instruct) moms and dads to take time off, but how?  When?  An event with an outside person facilitates the process.  We revisit sensitive issues from a fun and fresh perspective.  The focus is on solutions, not on blame…therefore not on the pain that family members suffer.  The web-workshops help turn subjects of tension into opportunities of learning.

Of course parents can do this on their own too.  And yet, realizing the need to step back AND committing to doing so requires a change of posture.  That’s tough.  An outside catalyst, such as a person, an event, an activity, help change happen more smoothly.

As you know, I believe parents are leaders.  It is a common professional practice to organize leadership seminars and team building events.  Consider the Home Is Fun web-workshops to be just that:  your family team brainstorming bonanza.

Another similar reference could be a hackathon.  Ideally, companies encourage creativity.  A one-time event…with a specified focus…which unites people in an out-of-the-ordinary context..and which offers a prize (!) boosts inventiveness to a higher level.

The goal of the Home Is Fun workshops is to strengthen the relationship within YOUR super family.  We present a fresh perspective SO THAT YOUR family can benefit by exploring it together.   We pose questions you might not have thought to ask.  That’s normal; you have been managing the busy daily routine.  The answers to the questions you explored remain for you.  The process of mutual exploration is for you.  The thrill of discovery of each other is for you.  The memory of creating solutions together is for you.  The ease of life that comes from your personalized solutions is for YOU.

Hope this answers your questions.  We love hearing them so keep on asking.

Getting Perspective when Seeing Red

Some days I just see red.  Call it myopic vision.

The boys display excellent teamwork skills...playing Mario Kart.  I only notice the dirty dishes left on the table.

Amazingly, my husband does not stop all activity to listen with ears and eyes while I share some erudite wisdom.  I take it personally.

A colleague does not answer me immediately and I wonder at his priorities. 

Looking out the window on a recent plane ride, I wondered about my current outlook on life.   Do I have an ant’s or an eagle’s perspective?  What am I missing by focusing toooooooo closely on details?

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How patient is your love?

A couple’s 4 years from “I will” to “I do”...and I, the parenting trainer, didn’t last 1 week... 

Here are the stories:

The Romance Story

This Valentine’s Day I attended an extra, extra-special wedding. Four years ago, the groom had to leave his home country, Pakistan, to seek political asylum in France. As a forthright pastor, his life was threatened. His fiancé’s was not; she stayed behind.

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Top 60 Gifts of 2014...They're All People. How is YOUR Support Network?

It’s been hard to move into 2015, and partly because I had not closed up 2014. Here’s to looking back (kindly) so as to look forward (hopefully and hope-filled-ly).

My greatest profits from 2014 result from investing in relationships:  personal, professional, communal, and spiritual.  Sometimes it"s one individual; other times it's a group.  High returns?  Totally!...even when sometimes there are yeeeeeaaaaaarrrrrs of dedicating loving before the returns flow back in abundance.  Still worth it.

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Your Family's Greatness - Take our Survey

Every family has greatness.  Tell us about yours.

We're changing and need your help to better understand

- your dreams for your kids,
- your hopes as mom and dad,
- your needs to get through the day, and
- your feedback to us

Please take the My Great Family Survey.

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Grow Love through the Power of Positive Recall

Have you witnessed someone totally change his demeanor before your eyes? It’s exciting!

It happened to me recently. A successful professional inquired about my line of work. As I shared the vision of Home Is Fun—to help strengthen relationships between parents and children—her posture changed: she crossed her arms, hunched down into her chair, lowered her chin, and set her mouth.

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Visibility ? Where ?

It’s December 29. Happy New Year...I hope.

What lies ahead? Two roads diverged in a yellow wood. Which path to take? The choice is even less obvious when the scene looks like two slopes diverging on a foggy, white hillside!

Are you, like Robert Frost, wondering about a next step? Do your New Year’s priorities need tweaking? Is a major decision looming ahead? These questions apply to me and I found insights from skiing in the fog.

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The Road Not Taken

Robert FrostThe Road Not Taken

By Robert Frost (1874-1963)
Published in 1920 in Mountain Interval

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