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Why would parents need help? If they are “good” moms and dads, aren’t they supposed to know?!

Dear Friend,

Great questions:  “Why should parents need help?  Aren’t we (moms and dads) supposed to know….and if we get help does that mean we messed up along the way?”

Let’s take a step back.

Have you ever stood VERY CLOSE to a tree, like with your nose touching the bark, and admired the forest?  Probably not.

When we have our nose to the grindstone (le nez dans le guidon) it is like a camera with a high zoooom lens.  We see details of the specifics in front of us and lose touch of the big picture. 

And have you noticed how pain acts in a similar fashion?  Time is short.  We want relief NOW.  No waiting.  I love how the 17th century gambler, Chevalier de Méré, puts it, “Il n’est pas bon d’être malheureux mais il est bon de l’avoir été.” (“It is not good to be sad but it is good to have been.”)

The Home Is Fun web-workshops enable parents to take a step back. Even to identify the benefit we gain (are currently gaining) from overcoming challenges.  Many parenting experts encourage (instruct) moms and dads to take time off, but how?  When?  An event with an outside person facilitates the process.  We revisit sensitive issues from a fun and fresh perspective.  The focus is on solutions, not on blame…therefore not on the pain that family members suffer.  The web-workshops help turn subjects of tension into opportunities of learning.

Of course parents can do this on their own too.  And yet, realizing the need to step back AND committing to doing so requires a change of posture.  That’s tough.  An outside catalyst, such as a person, an event, an activity, help change happen more smoothly.

As you know, I believe parents are leaders.  It is a common professional practice to organize leadership seminars and team building events.  Consider the Home Is Fun web-workshops to be just that:  your family team brainstorming bonanza.

Another similar reference could be a hackathon.  Ideally, companies encourage creativity.  A one-time event…with a specified focus…which unites people in an out-of-the-ordinary context..and which offers a prize (!) boosts inventiveness to a higher level.

The goal of the Home Is Fun workshops is to strengthen the relationship within YOUR super family.  We present a fresh perspective SO THAT YOUR family can benefit by exploring it together.   We pose questions you might not have thought to ask.  That’s normal; you have been managing the busy daily routine.  The answers to the questions you explored remain for you.  The process of mutual exploration is for you.  The thrill of discovery of each other is for you.  The memory of creating solutions together is for you.  The ease of life that comes from your personalized solutions is for YOU.

Hope this answers your questions.  We love hearing them so keep on asking.

How patient is your love?

A couple’s 4 years from “I will” to “I do”...and I, the parenting trainer, didn’t last 1 week... 

Here are the stories:

The Romance Story

This Valentine’s Day I attended an extra, extra-special wedding. Four years ago, the groom had to leave his home country, Pakistan, to seek political asylum in France. As a forthright pastor, his life was threatened. His fiancé’s was not; she stayed behind.

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Should our family define our values?

Isn’t it exasperating when you ask your child to be kind to his friend...and he goes off to be mean to his sibling!

“But I did what you said!” your kid responds all confused.

Maybe its time to talk about values in a different way.

Sign up NOW for our free family webinar for parents and kids to discuss values together.

Join us on February 7 at 14:00 Paris time for a family activity to help your family together define your values AND what that means in your home.

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Bye Bye Auschwitz. Hold onto Values.

Today commemorates the 70 years of liberation of Auschwitz.

This Nazi camp I have not visited. But I did catch a smidgen of the sense of a death camp at Natzwiller-Struthof, a Nazi concentration and extermination camp located in Alsace, France among the rolling hills of endearing wine country, next door to church-studded villages with gingerbread-like houses.

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Top 60 Gifts of 2014...They're All People. How is YOUR Support Network?

It’s been hard to move into 2015, and partly because I had not closed up 2014. Here’s to looking back (kindly) so as to look forward (hopefully and hope-filled-ly).

My greatest profits from 2014 result from investing in relationships:  personal, professional, communal, and spiritual.  Sometimes it"s one individual; other times it's a group.  High returns?  Totally!...even when sometimes there are yeeeeeaaaaaarrrrrs of dedicating loving before the returns flow back in abundance.  Still worth it.

:-)

 

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Make New Year's Resolutions the Kids Help You Achieve

New Year's resolutions can feel like New Year's Additional Pressures.  That's what it sounded like on the French radio this morning.  (Read below).

Join us for the Family Feedback Free Webinar for parents AND kids TOGETHER.  Build your Be-the-best-family-we-can-be Resolutions together and harness the children's support to help stick to them. 

Date:  January 4

Time: 11:00 am EST for about 45 minutes (you choose whether to stay on and ask questions)

Fee:  Free.  Home Is Fun's gift to you.

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Love by Allowing Kids to Fail…and Find Their Own Solutions... Without Mom and Dad Getting on Their Back

Today I received a huge “I know you love me, Mom,” from my 20 year old son. 

Nothing gushy-wooshy about it.  I allowed him to do things his way:  first to get himself into an awkward mess and then to find his own solution out of it. 

He expressed thanks for my confidence in him.

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10 Ways to Connect with Kids...of ALL Ages

We humans, both parents and children, are wired to experience intense emotions and engage in logical reasoning.

Beware:  every emotion does not always generate clear thinking!

Click below for our free download.

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No Feedback = Stuck in the Muck without Realizing It

How can one change?

- The "establishment”? 

- My child?  

- Me?! 

Have you experienced a less-than-optimal situation and wanted to help it evolve only to be told, “This is the way it is.  PERIOD.”

I have.  Twice this week!   Each instance is characterized by the absence of feedback.

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Turn Work into Fun

Running = WORK (in my book).  It’s effort, sweat, and sore muscles.

And yet, I wanted to run yesterday as The Color Runners pranced by me during the Paris race.  It’s a 5K race and every kilometer is marked by a shower of color.  They call it “The Happiest 5K on the planet.”

What if we could infuse our home management with such joy?  Here’s my go at it:

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